–adjective
1.
not lasting, enduring, or permanent; transitory.
2.
lasting only a short time; existing briefly; temporary: transient authority.
3.
staying only a short time: the transient guests at a hotel.
Transient means not lasting, enduring or staying only a short time.
What are the things or people that are transient in our lives ? The first I came to know of this word was when my relationship with Weiquan ended.(At least I learnt a new vocabulary haha.) I just had this sudden feeling to write something. To me, almost everything is transient, because as humans move from one stage of life to another, things change. Even successes, promotions, things that made you happy, doesn't matter anymore. Note: I said things.
Just take for example me. Things I had in the past, to me, they are only things with significance now. At times, human stop to wonder why they are doing what they are doing, then go back to their busyness of life.
Busyness here means lively but meaningless activity. How can an activity be lively yet meaningless ? You asked yourself. Why not ? I rebutted. Many times, people start doing things with a certain goal in mind but slowly as time passes, the goal moves more distant and more distant from them until they can no longer see it. Its just like a dark cloud covering that image in their mind. Then it slowly disappears until they get caught up in the meaningless activity everyday. They forget why they are doing this.
For example, maybe Mr Ong was given an opportunity to work overseas and he sees this as a good chance to give his wife and children a better life. Thats his goal, and I'm sure every man's goal - to give a more comfortable life to his family. Therefore, he went overseas and started off with this mindset but slowly as time passes by, he only treats the goal as a job, forgetting why he is overseas as he is caught in the busyness of life everyday, wanting to do a good job to please his superiors.
This is how everything is transient. Thats like only one in a million of the examples you see in life everyday. I realised, everything can be transient except love. What is love to you ? I searched it up in www.dictionary.com and it gave me many results for it. Love to me means, my parents, my siblings, my Laopo, Bels Kor and all my friends around me like the frogs blahs. Love to me is giving unconditionally. I might not attend church services nowadays but God will always be in my heart, he is the symbol of love. For most of the things I do, I will think if He would like or approve of me doing so. Something I wrote in the first sentence of my ramblings after my relationship as a couple with Weiquan ended was "Love is transient". I would like to correct that now. Things can always change but love. Love is a very powerful emotion. I love to love. I love to give. It fills me with joy. I'm going to start a new chapter in my life soon, with the starting of poly.
Many things changed, from the past, living in Bukit Batok to living in Sembawang, but the love from my parents hung on, the love from my sisters remained, and my love for them stayed. I might not be able to meet up with Laopo often already soon, but I know my love for her will never change. No mattter what the future holds for Xiong and me, things might change for better or worse, but my love for you as a sister will not. I had a little chat with a close secondary school friend recently, one which I haven't met up for quite a while. I knew him since secondary 1. It went like this.
Me: Hey, wanna meet up before you enlist and I start school ? Sooooo long never see ya le, I think 2 years right ? Haha.
Him: Don't feel like meeting up, I'm working now.
Me: (perservere lol) What are your working hours like ? I'm sure you can have a dinner with me or something right ?
Him: Er, my working hours aren't that long, actually I only work a few days, just that I have been thinking a lot recently.
Me: Anything I can help you with ?
Him: Nah, nothing serious.
Me: You sure ?
Him: Actually, its the university stuff and some of the stuff I have been thinking bout. I have been thinking, friends aren't to stay. Its just like when one stage of your life end, then the communication with all the friends end too, they are like only schoolmates, cca mates or whatever.
Me: I'm still here ^^ Sometimes when one stage of your life ends, friends(some of them) will go with it but you will still keep in contact with some of them , won't you ? Just like me, I'm still here to pester you haha. Anything you can still drop me a message or what de ma...
Him: I'm alright actually. Nothing big. Just a realisation I have made over the years. Your thoughts are too fairy-tale like. Anyway I've changed a lot, you sure you wanna meet up ?
Me: Why not ? You are still *toot* right ? ^^
Him: Yeah my name remains the same.
Blah it goes on.
To me, my friends will always be there, T2, secondary school friends, the frogs, Lala and Jing, althought they might not be present in my life knowing what happens to me everything but I'm sure when I'm in need of help, they will be there. And I love them. Maybe my thoughts are fairy-tale like like what *toot* had stated. But I rather think this way.
I once doubted the friendship of me and my dearest friend, my Laopo. I'm a human too. I asked myself questions. Will we ever remain this way until we get married, give birth and age. ( = And yes I can see myself doing that with her. Sometimes, I envy Weide, because he gets to spend much more time with her than I do ^^ I experienced the taste of unconditional love from her, not mentioning my parents. Sometimes, I wonder if other girls' relationship is like the way me and Laopo are.
Things like achievements and some things might be important in life. But life is not bout these transient things. I might have lost a lot of things in the past two years but I'm happy. Thats all that matters. People might say I'm silly, I'm stupid, I'm lame but ( =
Just felt like rambling.
Sometimes I think I live in my own fairy-tale world ^^
